Sample Questions

Children

  1. What do you miss most about your mom and dad being together?
  2. Do you ever think your mom & dads break up was your fault?
  3. How does it feel when you hear your mom and dad arguing?
  4. How does it feel when you have to say good-bye to one of your parents?
  5. Do you know that God loves you no matter what? How does that make you feel?
  6. What are you the most scared of?
  7. When do you miss your mom or dad the most?
  8. When you miss your mom or dad, what do you do?
  9. What is your favorite place to go and why?
  10. What don’t you understand about what is happening to your family?
  11. When and where do you feel the safest?
  12. What is a favorite thing you like to do with your mom or dad?
  13. If you could have one wish, what would it be?
 

Teen

  1. What one word best describes your day and why?
  2. It is school conferences, who do you invite?
  3. When you hang out with your friends, what is your favorite thing to do?
  4. What do you do when one parent talks negative about your other parent?
  5. What do you do when you hear your parents arguing?
  6. What do you do when your parents as you to deliver messages for them?
  7. How has your life changed since the separation?
  8. If you could change one thing, what would it be?
  9. What do you do when you miss your mom or dad?
  10. What does forgiveness mean to you?
  11. What do you miss most about your family not being together?
  12. If you were an animal, what animal would you be and why?
  13. When was the last time you got angry and why?
  14. Who is the first person you would call when you need cheering up?
  15. What do you fear most?
  16. What is your most favorite memory of your family?
  17. When you are used as a sounding board, how does that feel?
  18. How does it feel when you get put in the middle between your parents?
  19. What is one thing you really like to do with your mom/dad and why?
  20. What one word best describes your day?
  21. What do you do when your parents won’t talk to each other?
 

Adult

  1. Who is someone you trust?
  2. Who has been the most instrumental in your healing journey?
  3. Are there people you were friends with that you don’t see anymore? How does that feel?
  4. Which holiday is the hardest for you and why?
  5. It’s your first anniversary since your divorce – how do you feel?
  6. When you think about forgiveness, what do you think of?
  7. If you could change one thing about your situation, what would it be?
  8. Which family member has been the most supportive and how have they showed it?
  9. When you think about your future, what do you think of?
  10. What day is usually the best day of the week for you and why?
  11. If you could do one thing over again, what would that be?
  12. Your former spouse is starting to date someone, how does that feel?
  13. What is one of your “buttons” that when pushed always causes a reaction?
  14. What is one piece of advice you would give someone who is newly separated?
  15. How have you helped to make your money stretch?
  16. What is keeping you from moving on?
  17. What is the hardest part about co-parenting?
  18. What is something you use to do that you have not done in a long time?
  19. Your child comes home and says they met the girl/boyfriend, what do you say?
  20. Your former does not return your phone calls - what do you do?