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A blast from the past
On: Mar 20, 2017
By: Krista Smith

Last Thursday night I did something I have not done for a very long time, something I had not done since my Jon went home (Heaven). I was not sure how it would go but there was a need so I jumped right in. Do you ever jump into something and then get smacked in the face mid stream.  Ya, well, that was me last Thursday night.

WELCOME TO 2017 (Part 2)
On: Feb 15, 2017
By: Krista Smith

Last month I shared some observations as we move into a new year by taking a minute and reflecting on the past year, like looking in a mirror. I would encourage you to go back and read last months newsletter or blog if you have not already done so. This month I am going to share some advice as we look into the window of new possibilities for the year 2017.

How to Survive Valentines Day as a Single
On: Feb 12, 2017
By: Krista Smith


By Michelle Peterson

Valentine’s Day can be one of the most brutal holidays for single people to endure. While the holiday season can be tough to endure without a partner by your side, Valentine’s Day is sure to fill your social media feeds with photos of all the happy couples in your social circle – along with, of course, the obligatory brag-fests about the expensive jewelry, dozens of roses, and delectable boxes of gourmet chocolate their loves have showered them with. If you’re going it alone for Valentine’s Day this year, here are a few ways to cope.

WELCOME to 2017!!!
On: Jan 17, 2017
By: Krista Smith

With 2017 here it is a great time to reflect on the past year and look into the new year for new beginnings.  It’s like looking into a mirror on the past years accomplishments and set backs and then looking through a window at new beginnings and possibilities that this new year could bring. 

Being Thankful When We Don’t Feel Like It
On: Nov 23, 2016
By: Krista Smith

But what if you really don’t feel thankful? What if you are surrounded in pain, feeling lonely and don’t even want to celebrate with friends and family? I know that feeling too, all too well. So what do you do when you are surrounded with people who love you and want you to be happy but it is taking all the energy you have just to wear a smile? 

The Anxious Leaf
On: Oct 22, 2016
By: Krista Smith

The leaves are changing, the air is cooler and school is well on it’s way. Fall….the beauty of it, the close of the warm sun replaced by the cool breeze. When I got remarried I was blessed with 3 more step children. They were born and raised in Southern Mississippi. They talk about it being 90 degrees there now and it is so hard to believe not being able to enjoy the beauty of fall. As much as I love the heat of summer, I can’t imagine not experiencing the rich colors that fall brings.
It makes me think of a little story. Let me share it with you.

Mans Best Friend or should I say Girl’s Best Friend
On: Sep 22, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Tonight is a sad night. It’s the night before I’m putting my pup to sleep. She has been with me through a lot. We brought her home the night after my father’s surgery at Mayo. I remember it as if it were yesterday, but in reality it’s been 11 years ago and a lifetime in tears. 

You cannot do it alone
On: Sep 16, 2016
By: Krista Smith

I remember my first fall after being separated from my husband. My children were 5 and 7. I had been attending a local MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group once a week at my local church. But I was needing something that specifically addressed what I was currently going through; loneliness, confusion, anger, hurt and help with answering the millions of questions my children had for me everyday. 

Fall Brings Change
On: Aug 23, 2016
By: Krista Smith

It is hard to believe summer is quickly passing by and fall is in the air. The fall brings lots of changes; school starts, schedules come back, work picks up, football starts and my schedule starts to fill up with conferences. 

Tips for Single Parent Vacations
On: Jul 12, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Single parents have unique challenges when it comes to taking their children on vacation. Although your goal would be to spend quality time together, you should be able to spend some time for yourself as well. When I was a single parent the 1st vacation I took was to Omaha Nebraska. That may seem like a very unlikely place for a family vacation but for me it was perfect.

Fathers Day
On: Jun 16, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Fathers Day is an important opportunity for your children to show their appreciation and love for their dad. I understand that this may be difficult for a divorced parent to accept. But I am challenging you to be the bigger person and put your feelings aside and think about your children’s feelings. Our kids love to celebrate special occasions. And since it is our responsibility to encourage their relationship with their dad, Fathers Day is a perfect opportunity to do that. 

Last Day of School Celebration
On: May 15, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Wow! Can you believe it! Another school year is almost over. And it’s a good thing because for everything they try to squeeze into May, a person couldn’t take any more!

I Got MARRIED!
On: Apr 15, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Yep, I did it. I jumped off that ledge of life and took another plunge in the wedding bucket of life. Loren and I got married on March 19th in St. Petersburg Beach along with 48 close friends and family. It was a day I never thought would happen.

Regrets
On: Mar 15, 2016
By: Krista Smith

It wasn’t too long ago when the chaos in my house was so loud you couldn’t escape it. Now today….it is so quiet you can’t find it. Children are on their own.

Seven years? Myth or Truth?
On: Feb 15, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Blending families is hard. Jon and I were married almost 15 years. Over those 15 years I can recall many hard times. There were times I seriously did not think we were going to make it. But looking back now I am so grateful that we endured the tough years. The first 7 years were the most challenging. I have read many books that talked about the magical 7th year and I never believed it. But for us, for some reason, things started falling into a natural order right around the 7th year. 

Happy New Year!
On: Jan 15, 2016
By: Krista Smith

Another year has gone. They seem to pass by faster every year. Christmas is always so busy it goes by quickly and before I know it I am writing 2016 on my checks. I have never been much for New Years Resolutions. Mostly because I’ve never had one last more than a week. Something always seems to happen in January that rocks my world. This year was no exception. You would think I would start to expect it but each time it hits me like a ton of bricks. 

Help Needed
On: Dec 30, 2015
By: Krista Smith

One of the toughest things in life is to admit that we need help. But it can also be the most rewarding as well.

Who Am I
On: Nov 16, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I don’t know about you but when I went through my divorce it rocked me to the core. I had spent 20 years developing who I was and then in only a few short months I was knocked to my knees again.

American Association of Christian Counselors National Conference
On: Oct 1, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I just finished an awesome week at the AACC conference in Nashville, TN. It was a great time to: reconnect with some friends, see what’s new out there, refocus on my passion, redefine my purpose and gain encouragement and support from other ministry partners who share my passion and goals in life.   At the same time I was able to share what God has been doing through The Big D, Slippery Slope games and introduce the Journey Through Divorce website.

Pets
On: Sep 24, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I love my 2 puppies. They greet me when I come home with happy faces and tails that won’t stop wagging. They cuddle with me when I am lonely. I can talk to them when the house is quiet. They don’t require too much cooking to feed them. They encourage me to get outside and exercise. And they fill the empty space in my bed where my spouse used to sleep. Why wouldn’t a person like that?

Music
On: Sep 7, 2015
By: Krista Smith

Music has a way of bringing either great joy and happiness or sorrow and sadness. Many times after a divorce people take a break from music just to help level out their emotions.

Step Family RX Seminar
On: Jul 31, 2015
By: Krista Smith

In May I was honored to be a part of a very exciting seminar. Dori Pulse, a friend and fellow ministry partner, hosted a Step Family RX Seminar in Eau Claire WI.  It was a day full of great speakers and I walked away with a renewed passion and head full of excellent information.

Birthdays
On: Jun 8, 2015
By: Krista Smith

What were birthdays like in your home when you were growing up? If you were like me it was a day filled with joy and family memories. Well, years later when I was raising my children, birthdays took on a different look. I did not like this look as much but it was one that I had to learn how to make the most of. Let me help you learn how to change your expectations and find a way to embrace this new challenge.

Congratulations Isaac Smith!!!!
On: Jun 7, 2015
By: Krista Smith

Our youngest son, Isaac, graduated from Colorado Christian University this past weekend. It was a day of much rejoicing and a day filled with much pride.

Dreams
On: May 12, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I woke up the other night in a panic. Every now and again I have a bad dream. It is always the same context, just differing situations. It consists of me attending an event, it can be a birthday party, a concert, a dinner, it really doesn’t matter where I’m at, it’s what happens when I am there that wakes me in a panic. I walk into a room and look around to find my husband, Jon (who passed away in 2012). I look everywhere but am unable to find him. This makes no sense because we were supposed to meet there. So I get on my phone and start calling him. I call and I call and it never goes through. The room starts to spin and the noise closes in on me and I begin to panic not knowing what happened to him. I then wake myself up screaming out for him in a panic because I can’t find him.

Where Do I Go For Help
On: Apr 21, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I remember the 1st months after my separation. I was working full time, raising 2 kids and doing all I could to keep it together. I needed someone to talk to, someone who would understand. I had many around me who were friends and family of both of us but I either felt like I couldn’t share how I was truly feeling or that they would not be objective enough to really hear me. It was a very lonely time. And sometimes because I had shared, more drama would enter the picture causing more issues to have to deal with.

Snow
On: Mar 23, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I have lived in Minnesota since I was 4. For the most part I’ve liked it, if I can overlook the freezing winters and mosquitoes in the summer. Every winter I wonder why I am still here. 

When It All Goes Quiet
On: Mar 18, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I’m not a person who likes quiet. When I went through my divorce the fear of quiet caused me to start a few bad habits. I learned to fall asleep with the TV on. I never wanted to stay home alone so I kept too busy. I let the kids fall asleep in bed with me. And I always had some sort of noise going on in the house. I am sure there are many more and I wish I would have learned to embrace my time alone better.

Turbulance
On: Feb 18, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I’m on my way home from Mexico. I love to travel and I find flying is the quickest way to get me from reality to relaxation. There is nothing better than leaving the bitter cold of Minnesota and 3 hours later walk out in the warmth of the tropics.

Super Bowl
On: Feb 3, 2015
By: Krista Smith

Tonight is the Super Bowl. I have been a diehard football fan, Vikings specifically, since I was a little girl. A lot has happened in my life but one thing has never changed, the Vikings have still never won a Super Bowl. Our best chance was back in 2009.

New Years
On: Jan 8, 2015
By: Krista Smith

I have never been much on new years resolutions. It’s not so much that I’m against them, I just don’t need any more reasons for me to disappoint myself. What I find more helpful is small, attainable goals throughout the year. 

The Wedding
On: Nov 23, 2014
By: Krista Smith

I just came back from a family wedding. Jon’s nephew got married. For many reasons it was bitter/sweet. To begin with, going anywhere without Jon is always like a large piece of me is missing. But today I had the wonderful gift of having all 4 of our kids and my 2 kids thru marriage with me. It was a day I will treasure forever.

Loss
On: Oct 30, 2014
By: Krista Smith

Loss comes in many forms. It doesn’t have a schedule. It doesn’t have a limit.  It just comes whenever and stays as long as it needs. Sometimes it leaves you breathless. Sometimes you want to run. But it always leaves you a different person and it takes a strength you never thought you had.

Our Loss
On: Jun 27, 2014
By: Krista Smith

Friends, family, ministry partners & fellow leaders –
 
It has been over 2 years since I have written in my blog and updated you on what has been happening in my life. Many of you may have already heard or may have picked it up along the way. Many of you have been praying for me, and for that I am more than thankful. These last 2 years have taken me to the depths of pain, have caused me to question life and death and have brought me to places I never want to experience again.